In the realm of social life, we ought to see that life is not black and white, we understand how terribly complex and nuanced most things are. As we grow older — if we put the time to sit and think — the reality of life will usually make us see and understand that most things are in-between shades of grey.
Seeing life in “grey” — or something called “grey-thinking” — means accepting life’s complexity as what it is, not labeling something neatly into our own box of perception.
However— on a scale of “oh yeah it depends” to “oh…
China’s philosopher Confucius once said the famous quote, “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” There’s a TEDTalk on YouTube with 11 million views promoting the same ideas, saying that life is actually very simple and easy, so why do we make it so hard?
Well, yes it’s true. But not 100% true.
For me, life is not simple, it’s complex. Don’t get me wrong — I love simplicity, but it doesn’t make me think that “life is simple.”
I’m saying this because I am human. And human is complex systems.
Bear in mind that “complex”…
There’s something that has been bothering my mind, and I really want to know. I’m really curious about us. Yes, us: humans.
I’m fascinated by humans.
Don’t you see? Humans are unexpected, yet they are predictable. They are passionate, yet nonchalant. They are annoying, yet amusing. They are strong, yet sensitive. They are strange, yet loving.
They are everything about me, you, us, and everybody else.
All the traits that reflect us, the characters that shape us, the personalities that portray us, aren’t those parts of what make us human?
And even though we are distinctly unique from…
Most people see laziness as an enemy of productivity. It’s counter-intuitive to be lazy and simultaneously be productive.
Well, I’m a seriously lazy person. And by “lazy” I mean I have very low energy to physically move out from my space — if not necessary.
Just yesterday, I sat at my computer for legit 3 hours to come upon the fact that there’s enough DNA in the average human’s body to stretch from the sun to Pluto and back, 17 times. Totally useful knowledge.
Apart from that, I run 2 online businesses since 3 years ago to date. I have…
Once, there was a man who made a living by selling balloons at a fair. He had all the colors, there were red, yellow, blue, green, white, and purple.
Whenever he thinks that his business was slow, he would release a helium-filled balloon into the air. And when the children saw it go up, their eyes sparkled with excitement. The children would then come up to him and buy a balloon. This made his sales would go up again.
He continued this process every day.
One day, he felt someone tugging at his jacket. He turned around and saw a…
Selama ini kita ‘dibiasakan’ untuk berpikir bahwa logika dan perasaan adalah dua hal berlawanan yang saling menentang satu sama lain.
Seberapa sering kita mendengar (atau bahkan mengucapkan) kalimat-kalimat ini:
“pahami perasaanku dong, jangan pake logika mulu”
“ah, gak logis pasti emosian”
“ngomong pake otak (logika) jangan pake otot (emosi)”
“logika lebih penting, perasaan gak masuk akal”
“perasaan lebih penting, logika gak bermoral”
Jenis pola pikir seperti ini disebut sebagai black-and-white thinking atau pola pikir hitam-putih.
Pola pikir hitam-putih — atau dalam psikologi disebut Splitting — adalah cara berpikir yang cenderung memuarakan sesuatu pada dua kutub yang kontras dan berlawanan; salah-benar…
So far we have been accustomed to think that logic and emotion are opposites. Some things in life cause us to feel, we call them emotional reactions. Some things in life cause us to think, we call them logical or intellectual reactions. Thus life is divided between things that make you feel and things that make you think.
But two things can be mutually exclusive if they can not happen simultaneously, like when we flip a coin; the result must be heads or tails, never heads and tails.
Logic and emotions are not mutually exclusive. They simply coexist — even…
“Life doesn’t give free lessons to anyone. So when I say life taught me, rest assured that I paid the price.” — Naguib Mahfouz
We all went through difficult times in our lives. Often we hear that everyone is fighting their own battle. As for me, there were times when life turned me upside down and hit me hard, down to the ground.
When I was 15, someone whom I trusted the most cheated on me with someone I knew, and dumped me right away the next day I found out about it. I know, you’re probably thinking that I…
How many times when you were about to make a hard decision in your life — whether it’s making the right circle of friends or thinking about which career path to pursue — you ask yourself, “What should I do?”
If you’re anything like me (or most people), the answer is a lot. It’s like an essential question to ask when we’re faced with a difficult choice.
For me, asking the “should” helped me see things more objectively, looked at the situation from many perspectives, considered the ups and downs, and chose the best option I think for myself. …
I had a few discussions with my friends the other day. Well, more like debate, and I’m the only speaker who takes the opposing sides. As you can already see from the title, we were talking about whether colonizing other planets is a bad idea.
My notion? It’s not. But for them, it surely is. Their argument as the proposition side circles around something like this:
“Space exploration is a waste of money. Now is not the time to colonize other planets. We should finish our priorities here on Earth before starting a new one.”
You’ve probably heard it too…